Parenting is a Journey…
The days are long, but the years are short.
I think everyone who is a parent can agree that at times parenting is extremely difficult, and at other times extremely joyous. There are moments when your child does something amazing, and your heart pounds with pride. Or the other end of the spectrum, moments when your child is hurting; you hurt alongside them with a pain you cannot even begin to describe. I am not really sure we are equipped for this roller coaster of emotions, but the responsibility is thrust upon us when they enter our lives, and it is up to our actions to shape their lives as we grow together.
I had the opportunity to watch the movie “Like Arrows” last night with my wife. I will admit it is a strange date-night movie, but we sat in the comfortable red chairs at our local Marcus Theater and enjoyed a glass of wine while we watched this two-hour show. My wife and I both have aspirations of being great parents, and we are wise enough to know that on many days we fall short. Parenting is hard… This movie was an inspirational tale that follows a couple from unexpected pregnancy, to a quick marriage, to a slow path of struggle and then enlightenment, until they reach their 50 year wedding anniversary. I strongly advise anyone who is a parent, or plans to one day become one, to watch this film. It is only in theaters one more day, with showings on May 3rd in many theaters, but I am certain it will be released eventually on digital and DVD/Blu-ray.
Three takeaways I took from the movie:
- It’s never too late to make a change. It doesn’t matter where you are on the journey.
- You’ll never look back on your life and think, “I wish I’d have spent more time in the office.”
- Our kids aren’t the problem… It’s us.
This last one hit me the hardest. My daughter (7) actively tries to spend time with me, and I frequently give her the cold shoulder as try to help with dinner, try to get some other chore done, or selfishly take a moment of reprieve after a long day at work. Granted I may not find playing with dolls exciting, but I need to step up and realize that we aren’t playing with dolls, we are forming a relationship that will last our lifetimes. My role as a father is not to simply provide for her financially, but rather to show her through my actions what a good father and a good husband look like. This intentional action will create our family legacy, because way too soon she will be teenager and dating. When she gets to the point where I am not the top man in her life, I want her to pick someone who gives her the same level of love that I did, and that idea pushes me to invest my love and energy now when it makes a huge difference.
I have no idea where you are at in your journey. But I know this world needs more positive success stories, so I am going to root for you, and wish your family the best. If you get a moment check out the movie trailer or the website.
Again wish you the best